Q: So you're telling me it's not really sex?
A: Think about it. There's no chance she can get pregnant from it. And she'll still be a virgin. I'm just talking about a safe and fun way to show our feelings for each other.

Q: And she likes the idea?
A: Well... It took a couple weeks of convincing, but she's finally warmed up to it.

Q: I'd say you're rationalizing the whole thing - and deep down you know it.
A: No, it's just a matter of where you draw the line. It's no different than kissing or holding hands. It's physical contact that makes you feel good. And it's something we are both ready for.

Q: I can tell you think you're ready for it. But it sounds to me like you've been pressuring her to go against her morals.
A: Hey, I'm not forcing her to do anything. What? It's not like I'm holding a gun to her face?

Q: If what you're talking about is no big deal, if it isn't really "sex", then tonight when you go over to her house, why don't you do it in the living room, right in front of her parents?
A: What? That's stupid.

Q: You're right. It would be stupid. And you will never do that in a million years, because you know that it is a big deal, and it is a sexual act.


Sex is more than just an act of intercourse. Sex is any physical relationship in which you share your body with someone else in order to experience any form of sexual pleasure. There no such things as "loopholes" in God's plan for us all that makes certain form of sex "OK" before marriage.

Don't misunderstand: There's nothing inherently wrong with sex. God created it. There's nothing wrong with sexual desires either. That's the way God designed our bodies to do.

However, you have to understand that sex is a sacred, special event that bonds two people together in a deep and permanent way.

It is God's will that you will maintain sexual purity. That each of us should learn to control our bodies in a way that is holy and honorable. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this does not reject man, but rejects God who gives you his Holy Spirit.

"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." ~Hebrews 13:4

So dear readers, if you think whether or not what you're doing is "crossing the line", think about, Am I doing this to give or get?


Leon Lim